If you want to change your life, you need to start by changing your thinking. Your thoughts create your reality, so if you're going to change your life you need to start by changing your thoughts. One way to do this is to become aware of the difference between living at cause and living at effect.
Living at cause means taking responsibility for your life and your choices. It means understanding that you are the creator of your reality and that you have the power to change it.
Living at effect means blaming others for your problems and feeling like a victim of circumstance. It means believing that you have no control over your life and that you are at the mercy of forces beyond your control.
Examples of living at cause:
I am responsible for my own happiness.
I create my own reality.
I am in control of my life.
I am the creator of my destiny.
Examples of living in effect:
My parents are to blame for my problems.
I'm a victim of circumstance.
I can't control what happens to me.
I'm at the mercy of fate.
As you can see, living at cause is empowering, while living at effect is disempowering. When you live at cause, you understand that you have the power to change your life. You are in control of your own destiny. When you live in effect, you feel like a victim and believe you have no control over your life.
HOW TO LIVE AT CAUSE:
The first step to living at cause is to become aware of your thoughts and how they create your reality. Once you become aware of your thoughts, you can begin to change them. You can start by choosing thoughts that empower you and make you feel good. As you do this, you will notice a change in your life. Things will start to go your way, and you will begin to feel better about yourself.
One quick way to start being more aware of your thoughts and actions is to stop and think for a moment before speaking or reacting and ask yourself, "How is this action or response putting me at cause? Am I blaming someone else or a circumstance?"
The second step to living at cause is to take action. Just because you have the power to change your life doesn't mean it will happen automatically. You need to take action and make it happen. This may mean making changes in your life, such as your job, relationships, or living situation. It may also mean taking some risks and doing things that are outside of your comfort zone. But the more you do to change your life, the better you will feel about yourself and the more likely you are to achieve your goals.
So, which one are you going to choose? Will you take responsibility for your life and create the reality you want, or will you blame others and feel like a victim? The choice is yours. Choose wisely.
About the Author:
Suzi Freeman is a public speaker, a Neuro-Linguistics Programming Master Practitioner, TIME Techniques Master Practitioner, a Master of Hypnotherapy, an Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner, an Emotional Intelligence Educator, and Trainer in Trauma-Informed Leadership. Suzi is certified as a Suicide Recognition and Prevention (QPR) Instructor from the QPR Institute.
Suzi works with women-owned businesses and women leadership teams to create a harmonious, happy, safe work environment. She also loves to serve and work with military & police families.
You can contact Suzi at firstname.lastname@example.org.