BY: Suzi Freeman, NLP Master Practitioner, Teen Mentor and Parenting Coach
Introduction
Have you ever wondered how your past experiences and emotions shaped your parenting style? It's more complex than the lessons you consciously impart to your children; it's about what your subconscious mind subtly influences. Explore how unlocking and releasing negative emotions subconsciously can revolutionize your approach to parenting, making you a more calm and empathetic parent.
The Subconscious Impact
Our minds function like icebergs, with the bulk of our beliefs and emotions lurking beneath the surface, unseen. These hidden feelings, particularly negative ones, can significantly influence our reactions and interactions with our children, often in ways we barely recognize. Understanding and addressing these can lead to a transformative shift in how we connect with our tweens and teens.
The Past Affecting the Present
Many parents bear the burden of past negative emotions—fears, anxieties, frustrations—that, without realizing it, bleed into their parenting. These emotions can trigger more reactive than thoughtful responses to our children's needs and behaviors.
I, personally discovered how childhood trauma, long forgotten, instilled a pervasive fear that dimmed the joys of parenting and basic enjoyment of life at times. It took 45 years for this to surface and for me to deal with it and no longer have a negative affect on my life. Acknowledging and releasing this fear through a special NLP technique; TIME Techniques dramatically shifted my perspective, allowing me to parent with newfound positivity and minimal worry—even with my sons serving in high-stress military and police roles. This profound change underscores the effectiveness of NLP in transforming parenting.
To hear more about my story on this "murder in the house" when I was five years old tune into my podcast, Raising Teen Warriors, Season Three, Episode One, coming out on Thursday, February 15, 2024.
Release for Relief
Here's uplifting news: shedding these negative emotions can make us more present, positive parents. Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, and meditation stand out as potent tools for this transformation journey. Regularly practicing emotional release is crucial to avoid emotional "build-up," akin to maintaining a lint-free dryer for optimal performance and safety. Focusing on releasing anger, sadness, fear, hurt, and guilt in a systematic manner, such as Time Techniques can prevent emotional overloads and foster a healthier parenting environment.
The Benefits of Letting Go
Improved Emotional Responses: Liberating yourself from past burdens unlocks patience and positivity, enhancing daily parenting interactions.
Healthy Modeling: Demonstrating effective emotional management teaches your children valuable emotional intelligence skills.
Deepened Connections: Freeing yourself from emotional baggage paves the way for more meaningful relationships with your children, fostering empathy and understanding.
Practical Tips for Parents
Mindfulness Meditation: Dedicate at least 10 minutes daily to mindfulness meditation, enhancing awareness of your thoughts and emotions.
Professional Guidance: Explore therapies such as NLP and hypnotherapy for deeper emotional work.
Journaling: A simple yet profound practice for articulating and understanding your emotions.
Conclusion
Embracing the journey of releasing negative emotions is not solely for your benefit; it's an act of love for your children. As you evolve and heal, you cultivate a nurturing, joyous environment for their growth and development.
Suzi Freeman, an NLP Master Practitioner, Teen Mentor, and Parenting Coach, offers specialized programs for parents and teens to navigate, manage, and transform emotions for enhanced mental wellness.
Schedule a call with Suzi: www.suzifreeman.com/contact